Oh, hey there, friends! So, you know that feeling when you're afraid of missing out on what's happening? It can make us super busy and sometimes we can end up ignoring our feelings. Let's chat about why this might not be the best idea and what we can do to take care of ourselves instead.
So, why is getting too busy and avoiding our feelings a not-so-great idea? Well, first off, being constantly on the go can make us feel super tired and worn out. And if we push our feelings away, we don't get to deal with what's really bothering us. That's a major bummer, right?
We might end up feeling this way because:
The pressure to make everyone happy: Yup, as tween girls, we often feel like we have to be perfect daughters, friends, and students to make everyone happy. This can lead to us packing our schedules full of activities and stuff.
FOMO (Fear of Missing Out!): There's so much cool stuff going on and we don't want to miss it. So, instead of taking some time for ourselves, we end up saying "yes" to everything and running around, super busy.
Coping skills? Well, sometimes they're still a work in progress: We're still figuring out how to manage all these emotions, so sometimes we end up just staying occupied with things to avoid dealing with what's really going on inside.
When does this usually happen? It can pop up when there are big changes going on, like starting middle school or making new friends. It's a bit scary, and we might feel like burying all those emotions is the way to go.
But let's remember one thing: FOMO is real, but it's important not to tire ourselves out in the process. We can figure out a balance between being busy and taking care of how we feel. It's a good idea to say "no" when we need to, take a breather, and focus on what's really important to us.
Now, let's imagine this: You're a tween and you have a lot on your plate. Maybe you want more time with your friends, a little help with your homework, or just some downtime to chill. Instead of asking for it, you say "yes" to everything, and soon you're everywhere, super busy, and ignoring your feelings. But let me tell you, that's not the best way to cope with things. Instead of speaking up for what we want, we end up feeling frustrated, moody, and super stressed out. And you know what? That's a huge bummer!
When we avoid our feelings and keep running around non-stop, things can get way worse. We might end up super tired, grumpy, and just not fun to be around. It's way better to ask for what we want and need, even if it's a bit tricky. Speaking up will make us feel tons better, and we totally deserve to have our say! So go ahead and share what's on your mind, girl! We got this!